My old buddy Bruce Rose passed away about six years ago from a heart attack. Bruce was the first person to go out of his way in greeting me when I was a new freshman at Coshocton High School after our family's moving from Conneticut earlier that summer. I was rather shy in those days (don't know what happened since) and was sitting alone on the old pipe fence by the entrance of the old school building during my first lunch hour. The new environment seemed overwhelming at the time, and since I had no idea what to do or where to go for lunch, I thought I'd just save the dollar mom had given me and sit watching the various student friend groups go their seperate ways.
Suddenly I heard a voice that seemed to be addressing me, "Hey you, aren't you the new kid that just came from somewhere back east?. What are you doing sitting out here all by yourself? This is Wednesday, the day we go down to the bakery for lunch, buy a couple of doughnuts for lunch, then sit in the poolhall watching the dudes play while we finish eating". I could hardly believe that someone who seemed to be one of the most popular kids in class was going out of his way, inviting me into his group of buddies. Later I found out that Bruce's mom and he attended the same church as we did, so we would be in the same youth group.
Thus started a friendship that would last until the day Bruce passed. Like boyhood friends tend to do, we took turns during our Coshocton High School days spending the night at each other's house during the weekends, and passed our summer hours playing baseball, football, and basketball from morning until dark (when we weren't going to Lake Park to swim of course).
Those who have any recollection of Bruce have no doubt that his favorite sport was wrestling, which was my least favorite. Somehow learning techniques for escaping the grasp of a half human-half ape who is actively trying to suffocate you by holding you in a position where your face is mere inches from their posterior and other intimate parts of their body was not the kind of "fun" I was looking for. Nevertheless, as anyone who has had a true wrestler for a friend can tell you, it is literally impossible for them to pass a single day without attacking their friend and twisting their arms, legs, torso and other body parts in directions God never intended them going. All this is done under the guise of improving their wrestling techniques and skills, and Bruce wanted to become the most knowlegeable and skilled wrestler ever. Some days I felt like hiding or calling in sick.
Survival under these conditions depended on my finding a way to defend myself. So I began paying attention to all these weird contortions wrestlers call "moves" Bruce was trying to teach me (really he was just looking fo a dummy to practice on). The summer before our senior year, I accidently caught Bruce in the chicken wing-half nelson he had previously taught me, finally pinning his butt and running my life-time record against him to 1 win vrs. the good Lord only knows how many thousands of losses. Bruce got up insisting that I was going to join the Coshocton High wrestling team as well as play football (the only true sport that made sense) my last year at Coschocton High.
Those that knew him will attest that Bruce Rose was not only the captain of our wrestling team, but by far the best we had on the mat that year, always insisting that the rest of us work our tails off. His tenacity insured that everyone on our team would do well, with even a novice like myself winning the conference and region despite my lack of skill or experience. Bruce taught me to concentrate on doing a couple of things extremely well rather than trying to do a multitude of things half-baked.
When I went to West Liberty to play football Bruce went to wrestle. Even there he wouldn't allow me to "slack off", insisting that I continue wrestling, then getting the head wrestling coach (who was also an assistant football coach) to threaten me if I didn't come out for the team.
I have no doubt that had Bruce been able to shift a wee bit of his enthusiasm for wrestling into his academic pursuits he would have remained at West Liberty becoming an all-American wrestler. You see, Bruce was the kind of guy focklore legends become loosely based on once facts become blurred by time. In fact the current wrestling coaches at West Liberty still remember him and his name is mentioned often in the sundry stories that come out when old wrestlers from that institution get together and start reminiscing, even though he only stayed one season and never wrestled in an official college match due to eligibility.
Bruce often talked of his respect for the upperclassmen he had wrestled with such as Jim Humphries, who became world renowned in the sport, Don Darr (who we both thought was really a muscle robot, not really human), as well as Bart Kistler, and contemporaries like Scot Thompson. Bruce could talk for hours about the matches he saw his teammates from Coshocton win or tell antecdotes of the extra-curricular activities they engaged in.
If I recall correctly Bruce was voted the best athlete and the best shaped person (whatever that means) our senior year while I would have been voted the most likely to be forgotten (but they forgot to vote about that). I always admired how he made friends easily and was respected by all who knew him. But somehow when I remember his happiest days I picture him with those old Coshocton High School wrestling buddies practicing in the old gym at Coshocton High School.
Rest in Peace my good buddy until that last trumpet sounds!
Dale L. Garrett